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How do we create Fear and Anxiety – and what can we do about it? In the world of the 21st century, do we need more or less fear and anxiety to survive as a species? A low-grade, short lasting fear can keep us on our toes and prevent us from putting ourselves into situations, which potentially could hurt us. More intense fear can help us to be fully alert and physiologically mobilize additional energy and resources that can be utilized to “fight” or “run away” from the danger. However, do we really need fear on a daily basis to stay safe? Let’s say you burn yourself on a hot stove, do you need to hold on to the pain to realize that you should not touch a hot stove again? Do we need the fear of loosing our jobs, to makes us go to work and perform every day? Is it the fear of getting hit by a car that stops us from walking across a busy highway? Or is it experience and common sense that most commonly keep us safe? Fear can also immobilize us, which then leads to the “deer in the headlight effect”, when we just feel paralyzed, not able to make a decision or even physically move. While it may be an effective way to alert us, when it escalates and grows into a panic, it can have devastating consequences. quietly behind you, wants to mug you? These thoughts, interpretations of reality, cause you to feel anxious – take action. You walk faster, trying to get away from the dark alley. A short time later you realize that the person behind you was a young woman, who was probably as scared as you were. In hindsight, the anxiety was completely unfounded and based on your imagination. So was it worth it? You certainly can argue that in this case fear and anxiety were appropriate, prompting us to take action to deal with a potentially dangerous situation. But how do you decide if a situation is truly dangerous? Are we responding to fantasy and “what ifs” or do we avoid real threats? And how can well tell the difference – and stay safe? Mark Twain said:” I have experienced many tragedies in my life. Most of which never happened.” How often, did we create an anxiety evoking scenario by filtering information from the outside – and creating a “reality” based story on the complete lack of information. It is estimated that we are receiving 2 million bits of information per second, which is vastly more than our mind can deal with. In fact consciously we are only able to compute 7 bits of information per second. So in order to make sense of the world, a large amount of information needs to be filtered out. This is the job of our subconscious mind, which uses filters that distort, generalize and delete information. These subconscious filters consist of memories of past experiences, unresolved emotions, memories, values and beliefs. Since we are often not consciously aware of the filters, we are also not aware that our “reality” is an extremely condensed version of all the information that is surrounding us. Depending on your filters, you are more or less likely to interpret “reality” as something dangerous or safe. For example, the more anxiety and stress we have stored on the level of the subconscious mind, the easier these emotions will get triggered. Or if one of our core beliefs is that “we we are not safe”, we will subconsciously look for evidence that confirms this belief. Therefore, in order to overcome fear and anxiety we need to work with the subconscious mind to change the filters, that make us more prone to experience these emotions. |
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